It has been about a year and four months since my son was born, and as you might have noticed, it has created a bit of a writing void. For those of you who are parents, I have a new found appreciation and respect for moms and dads. And for those of you who work at home, with little ones in your presence, you deserve extra kudos!
After my son was born, I decided I needed a break and as a result, I took one. A long one, in fact. I hope that my books, and sporadic Facebook posts and tweets have kept you somewhat busy. But, now I’m back, and I hope to reengage with you and your journey in making positive change in your life.
I thought a great way to kick off my comeback would be to share with you the lessons I’ve learned from having a baby and how our children can help us change in positive ways. Spending time with children can open your eyes and mind to a whole entire world. Although they may be young and inexperienced, they can be wiser than adults. And, whether you are a parent or not, these lessons can benefit all of us.
- Cherish the Time You Have. When you have a little one, you begin to understand what time really means. Babies grow so fast, and they change so quickly, that what you perceived as a day, a week or a month prior to parenthood, is only but a second once a baby is in your life. Moreover, there is never enough time in one day. What this has taught me is that wasting time is truly a waste. It pays to make your seconds and minutes count. Make the Change: Think about how you may waste time during your day. Do you watch a lot of mindless television? Do you play computer games? Do you spend a ton of time on social media? Try swapping out time wasters for more productive activities. Take a walk. Call a friend. Read a book. Write a love letter. Find more purposeful activities and you’ll feel a greater sense of meaning and fulfillment in your life.
- Appreciate the Little Things. As an adult, it is easy to take things for granted. We become immune to the world and its magic. Children, on the other hand, are constantly appreciating everything in their environment. Seemingly mundane things, like reflections in the mirror, wheels going round on a passing car, leaves spiraling down during the fall season, or bubbles floating through the air is absolutely captivating!Make the Change: When was the last time you walked through a garden and took a moment to study the pattern of the leaves. Or, watched the wheels and chain on a bicycle to really understand how it works. As adults, we come to understand much about life, and so, we take these things for granted. Take some time to look at ordinary things in new ways. Watch and try to understand how things work. Enjoy the mundane by finding something new about it.
- Be Passionate. Granted, we aren’t always thrilled when our children are upset, but when they are upset, they sure are passionate! When they laugh, they laugh with a deep belly laugh. When they smile, their eyes crinkle. When they play, they are imaginative and creative. This passion is one of the most beautiful things about children! Make the Change: The more we live, the more tempered we become. We become hardened and even stoic. Although some situations and environments may call for a less emotional demeanor (such as at the workplace), emotion is such a huge part of life. Feeling and showing it is instrumental to being human. Find creative ways to engage and release emotion. Whether watching funny movies or going to comedy clubs sparks deep laughter, or reading a romantic poem brings out your softer side, do things to get your emotional juices flowing. And, when it comes to living life, be passionate. If you don’t enjoy something or it doesn’t make you feel alive, then it isn’t worth doing.
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Now it’s your turn! I’d love to hear about your experiences with children and how they have changed you for the better. Let me know in the comments below, and provide as much detail as possible so that we all might benefit.
Thank you in advance for reading and adding your personal voice to the conversation.
With great appreciation,