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Question: Is it normal to feel like you are on a roller coaster as you complete the “Self-Discovery” section of A Whole New You: Six Steps to Ignite Change for Your Best Life? And what should I do with these feelings?
- Chad from Illinois, USA
The self-discovery portion of A Whole New You is, most definitely, emotional. There’s a good chance you are unearthing some things that may have been buried deep for a long time. If you didn’t feel any emotions, I’d actually be concerned.
If you are uncovering painful memories, difficult realizations, or simply come to realize that you have been living an unauthentic life that isn’t true to who you are, it can be very emotional. Personally, I’ve gone through this, and I know many others who have as well.
Let’s say you have been working in a career that you thought you “should” be in for 10, 15, or even 20 years. You may be very successful and making good money. If you come to realize the work you are doing, however, isn’t what you really want, and instead, is a manifestation of what others expected of you, it can be frustrating and cause you to feel a whole range of emotions. You might feel angry or disappointed. You may feel sad for yourself, thinking you lost precious time that could have put towards higher and more rewarding purpose.
Or, let’s say you have been in a relationship that you feel is unrewarding and has left you feeling empty for years. Maybe you’ve spent 10 to 20 years in a marriage that you now realize has been wrong for you. Again, you might feel saddened by the loss of time or opportunities that you perceive you’ve missed. This is totally natural.
These feelings, however, are exactly what will help you make the transformation you desire. Uncovering the feelings, thoughts or emotions you’ve been hiding for so long is exactly what will allow you to start creating the life that you are really meant to live and a life that you can get excited by, each and every day. The knowledge you are acquiring, although difficult, is what will give you the clarity and a better sense of self to move forward in an authentic way. This will keep you motivated.
To get through some of the pain, remember this: life is a journey. If it was straight and narrow, we would get very bored. Believe in a little bit of “what is meant to be will be” and “everything happens for a reason.” Often, some of our mistakes and failures, or misguided experiences are important lessons for our future. They are what make us smarter and stronger for the long term. Capitalize on what you’ve LEARNED from these experiences and use them in building a better and happier future.
Find out more about how to navigate your own personal transformation in A Whole New You: Six Steps to Ignite Change for Your Best Life.
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