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10 Ways to Remove Negativity from Your Life

Have you ever come away from a conversation with a friend feeling down, empty or alone, in spite of being in a good mood at the beginning of the discussion? Do you find that you are more concerned with the drawbacks of doing something than actually doing it? Or, does the thought of going into your office make you feel sick?  If you said yes to any of these questions, you are most likely in the presence of negativity.

Negativity is all around us and doesn’t always present itself in an obvious way. Is a matter of fact, there are three sources from which negativity usually breeds: Negativity in your relationships, negativity within yourself and negativity within your environment.  Whether you are receiving it from one or all sources, here are some things you can do to reduce the negativity in your life:

Negativity in Your Relationships

  1. Minimize Toxic Relationships. You all have heard me say this before: Remove toxicity from your life.  Toxic relationships often come hand-in-hand with negativity.  If an individual makes you feel bad about yourself, what you do, how you are, then the person is toxic.  Toxic people often make others feel badly in order to feel better about themselves.  Unfortunately,  these individuals can be family, making it difficult to completely remove them from your life.  In these cases, minimize the time you spend with them and work on cultivating healthier, happier relationships.
  2. Set Clear Boundaries. Set boundaries with the negative people in your life. If they cross a line and they go too far with their commentary, then let them know that although you love them and care for them, their negativity isn’t welcome.  Explain to them that if they can’t be positive or respectful, then you can’t be around them.
  3. Find Positive People. The more you surround yourself with positive, high energy people, the less room you have for those who are negative.  Have you ever had a friend who made you feel special, gave you more confidence, even made you feel empowered?  This is the type of person who brings positivity into your life.

Negativity within Yourself

  1. Focus on the Whats and Not the What ifs. Many of us let fear and anxiety impair our ability to move forward and achieve the things that will bring happiness into our lives.  Negativity feeds on fear and anxiety.  As a result, focus on the things you want to do and imagine yourself doing them.  Push out the fear and the anxiety and instead, imagine the positive feelings and happiness you’ll get from doing the things you want to do.
  2. Meditate. Meditation can come in many forms.  You can meditate through more traditional formats such as yoga or deep breathing, or just by carving in some “alone” time by yourself.  The goal here is to spend some time on a daily basis, clearing your mind, ridding it of negative thoughts and refocusing it on those that are positive.
  3. Do What You Love. Enjoying the things you love allows you to feel positive, happy and joyful. When we do things that feel good and that bring us happiness, we disengage negativity.
  4. Think Positively. Although I’m not that well versed in the “law of attraction,” there is a lot of truth to being the master of your own destiny. You may have heard the saying, “positive thoughts beget positive results.”  The more negatively we think, the more negative things will happen. However, the more positive we are and the more we believe in ourselves, the more positive things will come our way.

Negativity within Your Environment

  1. Love What You Do and Where You Do it. Granted, when times are tough, we may not have the luxury of being too picky in this area.  But, when we work with people who are negative, it can be draining.  Further, if the morale of the company is really low, your work environment can have a tremendously negative impact on you and your overall outlook. If this is the case, look for a new job and seek out a company that is known for having a healthy, positive culture.  There may even be an opportunity in another department within your existing company.
  2. Love Where You Live. Our neighborhood can have a big impact on our outlook. Whether something distasteful has happened in your community or you just don’t get positive vibes from your neighbors, it may be time to move.
  3. Get Involved. Get involved in your local community. Do some charity work. Get involved with a non-profit. Be a big brother or sister. Getting involved in philanthropic programs makes a positive impact on the world around you, ultimately making you feel positive about yourself and about life.

Don’t let negativity bring you down. Make it a thing of the past and see how positive life can be! Have you conquered negatively recently? What did you have to do?

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  • John

    Brett, I agree with your points and they are helpful if one practices them regularly. On the topic of negativity I came across a very inspiring video post “Think Positive” by Vineet Nayar. You might want to see this.

    • Brett

      Thanks John!

  • TMJ

    This was a wonderful article. The way I have learned to deal with my own personal negativity is by journaling, whenever I feel mad, insecure, or fearful I journal about it and why I feel that way. and this happens atleast once or twice a week. To me when you are honest with your feelings you’ll most instantly feel better. I have good friends around me and I know how to have fun, but I know who to have which conversations with, and who to create strong boundaries with.Also, I find being upfront with people people is a good way to clear the air and setting a boundary, bc they will pretty much know to not bring their mess into your life and they will know why you cut them back and stop talking to them just based off of what you may have told them from the beginning. Luv it!

    • Julia Lewis

      Yup. Some are too invasive and must be stopped as overt neanderthal primitives obsessive idiot.

    • Julia Lewis

      I prefer to remove the negative beast out of my life. Who was too hallucinating about themselves to be in my life or force themselves in my life to begin with.

    • Julia Lewis

      If I don’t like someone or anyone it is always for a good reason. Whom ever or whatever kind of beast that they think they are. Removal is mandatory by me.

  • namrata

    it was gr8 reading this article…………… it told me many things aabt positive livin.
    it was really a guiding light o how to live a stress free and positive life

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      • frnd

        trust in ur heart. u will find peace.

  • very nice website. thanks a lot.

  • Mitsy

    My toxic person is a co-worker who used to be one of my best friends. Her controlling boyfriend has succeeded in isolating her from her friends. Her personality has changed a lot within the last year. She’s moody & has been hateful, at times, to me as well as other co-workers. I tried talking to her about her behavior a few times but she basically shut me out & did not want to discuss anything. Now, I no longer call her or pretend that we were once close friends. I try to maintain our work relationship because I don’t have much choice in working w/her. Thankfully, it’s only 1 or 2 nights a week that I have to deal w/her. When she got hateful with another fairly new co-worker about work hours, both the newbie & myself talked to our supervisor about this woman’s attitude. I think something was said to my “toxic” friend because she’s been better overall in recent weeks. But, the damage has been done to our friendship. There were too many disappointment, too many hurt feelings over the last 8-9 months for me to pretend that things could ever be fixed between us. She blew off my birthday last year only to take me out to lunch with a whole group of people a MONTH after my birthday. We had always done dinner or lunch w/just the 2 of us before. I’m sure her boyfriend has had a hand in how she conducts any other aspects of her life, but I’m basically done w/her. If we did not have to see each other at work, I would not have any contact w/her at all. Since making the decision to no longer work on a dead friendship, I’ve found myself feeling more uplifted as this toxic person drug me down very badly.

    • Julia lewis

      She does not trust you. Do not cross boundaries with her. Thinking that you know more than she does. She is isolating due to forming an opinion that she does not want you in her life. Focus upon yourself instead.

  • Deangilo

    Thank you for this info now i know what to do to erase all the negativity out of my life my soul my body my mind my heart & out of my spirit i will meditate for about 20-25 mins a day & wipe my entire life/world of negativity so people (friends family & others) can enjoy me being around more

  • ARwin

    Thanks for the article ! Recently i just came to know that many people that i love & care so much are trying to degrade me as i am enjoying my life full of happiness & fun even though i am not rich or in a greater level like them. First i got angry & felt bad for wasting my love for the people that don’t deserve. Now i am just doing a simple thing, just ignoring them completely from my life. I don’t hate them but i just stopped to love them anymore coz i don’t allow someone to ruin my happiness.

    My piece of words to everyone : “Try to make others happy, if not at least don’t make them sad.”

    Love & Peace

  • ARwin

    If some one else then u can just ignore them but in ur case it’s ur own mother. So just take her out one day & sit with her in a calm environment & explain how much u love her & explain softly abt how u feel bad for the negativity that she brings into u. I am sure she will understand it. Keep smiling & spread the same. Cheers

    • Julia Lewis

      When she doesn’t comprehend that you do not require her invasiveness all it does is cause more blocks in communication of her dysfunctional learned behavior. Tired of someone else’s dysfunctions then what it causes with is someone like me is to retailate in defiance against the agressor and the oppressor. And like kids all stated to me and said, that’s why we call people like them all old school nigga. Thinking as well in limited inexperienced mindsets at times. I humbled myself to kids to understand the complexities of too many psychotic minds. And that is was the simplest definition of their ignorance to my own.

  • Linda

    My toxic relationship was with a friend I considered to be like family. I told her my secrets and confided in her. Then I noticed a change in her behaviour towards me and on two occasions I found out she was taking about me behind my back and the people she was talking to ‘twisted’ what was said – making me the BAD person when in fact I wasn’t she chose to believe the lies and basically this was drama I did not need in my life. I mean what person in the right mind would tolarate this kind of person. To this day I don’t know why she was the way she was. As I have other friends and they are not like that. The bottom line is she was jealous of me and my life. Instead of being happy for me and lifting me up and moving forward with me – she despised me but sadly it took me over 15 years to realise this as I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I have now cut her out of my life and I am so happy. When she hears good news from other people we both know – that will be my small karma release cause she will never be happy if I am happy but I am a very positive and straight forward person and I am always rising to the top. She doesn’t like that. God riddance to her is what I say. And thank god for showing me the true person she was.

    • Julia Lewis

      My toxic relationship was with an army of invsstivr vicious malicious violating people that are beasts as them in each of these categories. The removal of such people out of my life trying to be each of their most hateful behavioral characteristics upon my life instead of them focusing upon themselves has been unwanted. Unneeded. Undesired. Rejected. Refused. Severing from them. Elimination to such kinds of toxicity is and has been my profession for decades. I now know that I truly am the best that money can buy in my profession. People made that statement to me for decades. I never comprehended it in full perspective in those decades. Now that I decided to flush them and that career out of my life, fire entire galaxies from me in it, I am fully aware that it was a profession that I chose to make my mother happy as Saint Mary as a little child and not want to do it any further due to the invasive little mongrel of lesser quality than that mother who she is and I am not. Making her happy was my concern until she caused my unhappiness as her limitations for being invasive upon my life became too overbearing. Too interfering. Too limited. And I do realize this was and is about who I am and she is not. O cannot change the limitations of her mind for me being the woman she is not and cannot become. I can look thru my mothers eyes. My daughter is not allowed to try to look thru mine. I refuse that kind of invasive person as my mother has been upon me. She is my daughter, as limited minded as my mother. I performed a career that was what my mother wanted. Now my daughter’s desire to achieve. Where in my eyes it was acquired for them not me. You are hereby fired as ungrateful unworthy people by me, like they are as people. Remove your toxicity within yourselves from my life. That was my profession and I am aware that the elimination of your toxicity upon my life is and has been necesaary waste. I refuse you in my life. You need detoxification out of my life. Get out. Stay out. I am having difficulties with elimination and urination of you toxicities out of my life as toxic relationships. Take your dysfunctions and go. I flushed you as gock. Goodbye. Get out. Go ride upon someone else’s coat tails. You are refused to ride yourself upon who I am and you are not. Get out toxic skank and scumloser. Idgaf who you think you are. You are not me as simple minded poor perceptions of limited people. Get out overt bastard and bitch. Idgaf what you call me. Get out. Stay as limited as invasive little people. You are violating beasts for people. Out. Big mistake thinking that you may ever invade my life as violating terrorist of the limited mindset of oblivious. Out. You are eliminated out of my life. Get out. Remove yourselves immediately. Get out. Idgaf who you are. Get out skank and scumloser. You are too tocic . Go become toxic into your own lives and remove yourselves from mine. Your thought patterns are too invasive, limited and toxic as dysfunction people in mine. Get out. Remove your toxin. That is demanded. Mandatory. A must. Get out you unjustified little beast. Scat. Out. Toxins are waste products that I have removed. Out. Stay into your toxic lives out of mine. Your dysfunctional. Go stay with dysfunctional your norm habitation and climate. Too late that decision by me is final. Idgaf what you are. Out toxic beast. Idgaf about you. You cannot repair what your toxicity as people have caused upon me. Your elimination is necessary. Out. Remove. Stop your obsessions in regards to me. They have been delusional. Out. Get out. Idgaf what caused your toxicity as people. Your excuses for yourselves is and will be unaccepted. Out. You are too limited. Out. Get out you uninvited invasive toxin. Out. Idgaf what you are obsessive toxin. Out. Toxin is not forgiven. Out. Get out toxin. You are not wanted or needed or required by me. Out. Your love is a hallucination in your mind. Out. *again, idgaf what you as toxin are. Out. Out toxin. Out beast. Out. I will continue to state that fact until you are eliminated out of my life as invasive toxic beast. Out. You are toxic army. Get out. Idgaf anything in regards to you. Get out. Be gay now. Idgaf. Be married now. Idgaf. Be happy now. Idgaf. Be dead now. Idgaf. Be zombie now. Idgaf. Be sober now. Idgaf. Be in rehab now. Idgaf. Be richer now by lying cheating stealing from me and being allowed to. IGAF. FUCK YOU. SKANK AND SVUMLOSER. No I warned you, skank and scumloser. You have no boundaries. And you are required by me to have them as invasive toxic people. No option. No compromise. No exception. Get out toxic pieces of shit. I do not want you in my life in any capacity. And that has been the major problem. You crossing boundaries with your instabilities as toxic people and you should have never been allowed to. Get out. Accept that you are TOXIC. Out. 7 years constant of my making that statement or more. Get out. Idgaf what your excuses are for yourselves. I know you toxic people too well. Do not cross that boundary with me. Get out. Read about yourselves in this article. Get out of my life you toxic pieces of shiy for people. Then, now. Future you are that TOXIC. Bleach usually does it. Hydrogen peroxide usually does it. Stain remover usually does it. Ultra cleanse usually does it. You are mandated by me to remove the toxicity and enemy of you out of my life. I do not care who you think you are. Or what you think you do. You are that kind of TOXIC PERSON. OUT. Get out toxic person. An invader as toxic as you are is never forgiven. Get out predator. I am not of your kind and you are in this article of Words. Its very clear to read if you have that capacity to perceive uoursrlf in those lines instead of cocaine ones? Many of you toxic people required cocaine to become someone that you are not. Idgaf that you are like that or not. You entered my life as toxic people. Took your straws and tried to suck up who I am and you are not. Get out. Get out overt little toxic bitch and bastard. You will not become Pardoned by me for your actions of incivility. Never. Get out toxic reject. You are refused. You all are. Do not like me. You are that toxin that I do not want in my life. There are too many of you that have been in my life as it was. Extraction of you has been permanent. Too many big mistakes as toxic people that you factually are. You required my confrontations and you received the truth in regards to yourselves non stop for your removal. These words by another author you better read. It describes you and not me. Get out. You have been and will remain those beasts of burden in your oblivious toxicity of you as you as usual. Out. No boundaries with me as you to be crossed, tied, sewn or remain. Get out toxic beast. You must stay with your same toxic person. She is not me. Get out. Again who you think you are is irrelavent to me. You are still toxic. Reread my words in regards to you. All of them. Or your choices and entitlements are to see what you lack to see in you in in another persons eyes. Do not worry you will not under any circumstance be forgiven. You are their of my happiness due to you lacking it as toxic vicious beast of you. Sooner or later that toxicity of you turns into the acid that does burn into your cold hearted malicious putrid stench of you. Get out. You’re that gangrene of coldness caught by people. You are every virus known to man and woman. You are a proliferation of yourselves from the hate inside of you. And you cause that hate to backflash and but oomerang back at you. Hope it decapitates you. Get out you arrogant toxic beast of my life. You are unworthy to have ever been in it at all. I do hope that your toxic eats at you completely to extinction of you immediately as earned and deserved. In the truth the truth cuts deeper upon you. It devers you as a double edged sword. The boomerang returns to you like that. What did it cut?of course you are no sorry. You haven’t received your returned to you double edged sword yet. When you do it will be your own toxic cut. How’s it feel to comprehend my rebuttal to your aggressions towards me abadivr toxic people. Hm. Get the fuck out of my life toxic skanks and scumlosers immediately. Get out and stay the fuck out pieces of shit for people. Idgaf what your problems and issues are. I do not and did not require to have to deal with you as well as my own. Get out toxic bastards and bitvhes. Keep your own problems and issues regarding yourself. I am not your therapist. Not need to be. Fuck you. Get professional psychotherapy and anti psychotic medications as a required by me for you get what you are seeking from me in your delusions, hallucinations, illusions of granduer and false ideologies of entitlements in your arrogance. Get out toxic people and remain out. You are exactly what you don’t want in your life as yourselves. Do not burden me as the beasts that you factually are as them. Yes it is too late. You are too toxic and do not remained I’ve yourselves as demanded by me out of disrespect and devaluation as primitives of the lack and limited. Your love is blinded by your own hate. Your eyes and as deaf as your perceyional limitations of yourselves. The primitive uncivilized beast. As you look into the mirror of yourself do not even try to see me to instead of yourself. I am not there. Get out. My abilities have marked you in confrontations to be able to see yourself instead. That is my power against you. Remove and eliminate yourself and your existence completely from my life. You are not wanted in it you psychotic unhealthy toxic lunatic. Scat.

  • Kritika Gupta

    Thanks a lot… I needed it the most in this time of my CAT preparation when I had lost faith in everyone expect just 2 people who just keep on motivating me. 🙂